I am a mom, wife, caregiver and friend. My life is hectic to say the least and there is not a day where something doesn’t come up. My house is a constant mess and I feel like I will never get caught up when it comes to the everyday household duties. I forgot to mention that I am also in school getting my bachelors degree to add to the chaos.
I met my husband after he was back from his deployment and everything seemed to be okay with him at the time of our meeting. We laughed, enjoyed each other and stayed up all hours of the night just getting to know each other. Little did I know deep down he had some baggage that I did not know about.
I was not from a military family and I didn’t have many friends that were in the military so I was very new to this lifestyle. Things that I should have noticed to be odd from my husband’s behavior at the time I didn’t notice because I was never around someone that had just returned from a deployment.
Over the years things had changed in our relationship. We encountered so many bumps in the road that I was sure our relationship wouldn’t last. But here we are today, 6 years later still working through things and never giving up on each other. However, throughout the years I have lost many friendships and family relationships due to our relationship. There were just people that didn’t understand the adjustment that I had to go through.
Have you ever felt as though you have taken on some of the medical or mental illnesses that your loved one has? My husband has PTSD and depression and these are just a couple of the things we deal with on a daily basis. However, I found myself over the years having anxiety and depression myself. If you think living with someone that has a mental illness is difficult imagine yourself also having it and trying to get through it together.
At the end of the day I am always still thankful that we found each other. Through the hard times and adjustments we have always managed to make each other smile somewhere along the line. I try my hardest to go to bed thinking tomorrow will be a better day when we have had a difficult one and that has worked for me thus far.